HOW TO BUILD A BUSINESS WITH SOCIAL ANXIETY
Yesterday my client told me the anxiety she used to feel for over 20 years was gone after our 3rd coaching session
This was very curious for me because I used to prescribe homeopathic medicine and lavender essential oil for anxiety in the past with moderate success. Clients would get relief, but the anxiety would come right back as soon as the remedy wore out.
So how did thought work resolve this problem in 3 weeks?
We discovered that that her anxiety showed up in conversations where she had to ask for something. Ask her clients to pay pending bills, stand up for herself, or tell any kind of truth.
She had the belief that because she couldn't control how the conversation it was better to avoid it.
She would avoid calling her customers to pay up their bills.
Her brain would tell her to go nap instead, that's self care, that's got to be good for you, right?
Money owed to her wouldn't come in because she wouldn't ask for it.
She would feel awful about herself. Rested, but awful.
We coached on her belief that she had to know what the conversation would be like ahead of time.
We discussed every possible scenario where the conversation could wrong. Someone might yell at her. Someone might hang up on her.
I taught her how to sit with the discomfort of being disliked. I explored the illusion of control. The spell of control.
We concluded that we don't control anything except our own thoughts.
We went into her childhood where she first had the experience of being shut out, and began equating it with her self-worth.
She's making calls with ease.
She's getting paid.
She's showing up in meetings.
She's participating in her business.
She's becoming the leader she always wanted to be.
Building a business with anxiety is one my strengths. Anxiety isn't a reason not to step up and launch. We can do uncomfortable things. We can show up even when we feel anxious, even when we feel fear, even when we're so afraid of what other people will think.
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